How to deal with your girlfriends extreme mood swings

For thousands of years there have always been issues when it comes to understanding the opposite sex, we never fully have and we probably never truly will. But what we CAN do is pretend that we understand as to be just and to spare ourselves from dead end arguments or full thriving screaming matches.

To be honest guys, being a women myself, there are times when even i don't understand my own irrational and/or extreme emotions. At one point or another, usually monthly, a woman may experience emotional highs and lows that they cannot explain. It is important for men to realize that these mood swings more often than not, don't actually mean anything. So if you are confused as to why your girl friend is in tears when you don't recall doing anything wrong, such an emotional low is probably caused by hormones. Unless of course your girlfriend is a drama addict or you really are a bastard.

Situation 1: She's crying.

When your girlfriend is in tears, first of all think about why, and if you can honestly say that you don't know, then you can (not so safely) assume that it's not you. In this instance you should then proceed with caution, approach your woman and ask her whats wrong. If the woman in question is upset about something that has happened or a circumstance, then this should be an easy situation to deal with. It's usually safe to speak freely in this situation, yet perhaps best to offer comfort and then leave them to it to get over the issue in their own time.

If it IS you, put on your most empathetic face whilst stroking her hair, and ask with as much concern in your voice as you possibly rustle up, ' Me? What hunny, what have i done?' Speak in your softest voice, and it helps you to sound more concerned when you drag out the vowels. ie: 'meee?' Don't over do it though or you'll sound like your whining, i advise practicing this technique first. Practice in front of the mirror so you can sure to perfect that gracious look of genuine concern.

The stroking of hair is a gesture that few men will ever understand, but men, i'm letting you in on a secret here, you can use this gesture as a secret weapon! Most women looove having their hair played with, it can soothe, comfort, calm and relax them unlike any words.

Anyway, When your lady has told you why she has a problem with you, you then need to respond with something along the lines of: 'Ooh, wow, I didn't even realize i was doing that, (or not doing that)..You know i would never do anything to intentionally upset you don't you? I'm sorry, and i will try to make more of an effort to do, (or not to do), such and such in future.' If you take this approach, your crying girlfriend problem should be resolved in no time. Also be aware of whether it's that time of the month or not, because if it is, women sometimes tend to find a reason or make one up to excuse their choppy emotions. But either way, it's best to tell her what she wants to hear, and yes you do have to actually mean at least some of it. So your not JUST smooth talking, you must also listen. ie: If you have referred to making an effort in future about a particular thing,habit,topic, whatever, you must commit to that. If you don't, after a while she will figure out that your words mean nothing, which could result in a lonely and/or heartbroken you.

Whether or not you can see things from your girlfriends point of view when she is being critical of you, is irrelevant. Of course it's great if your a fairly understanding bloke and you can, but if you really don't care for drama, then your approach should always be similar to the example given. BUT, if what your lady has to criticize you about actually deeply offends or hurts you, then by all means, tell her that you don't understand. I recommend that you go about doing so in the way that i have described above.

Situation 2: She's not talking to you.

There's really only one way to deal with this one, simply let her know that you are ready to listen when she's ready to talk.

Situation 3: She's going friggin psycho!

First of all approach this situation with intention to, at all costs, not chime in. The wisest thing to do is to wait till she's calmed down and ignore the out of control behavior in the mean time. If your woman is a particularly feisty one, i would advise that you leave the house for an hour or so, then she can reflect on her behavior and with a bit of luck, when you return she will come running into your arms pleading for forgiveness.

If you feel the urge to do something about this situation immediately, i wouldn't recommend it, but your best bet is to approach her with wide arms and whip out the hair stroking weapon. Then you can try to resolve the problem using the techniques described above.