How to stop sexual harassment in the workplace

I have personally been subjected to sexual harassment in a work place more than once. If you have too, then you know how unnerving it can be. Especially if it's coming from your boss, which it generally does because he or she thinks they can get away with it because you can't afford to loose your job. Read this article and learn how to stand up for yourself in a subtle and respectful manner. You don't have to put up with it!

Whether you are dealing with an ass toucher/grabber, an ogler, someone whom makes comments that make you feel uncomfortable, any touching of your body that you don't appreciate from someone, or a total creep who's all of the above...Deal with it now and spare you're dignity and self' worth, DON'T put up with it.

The key to dealing with this person effectively is to remain calm, it's important that you control your emotions when confronting this person, because the over-all objective is to make this person think that they picked the wrong person to mess with.

The bearer of sexual harassment is likely to be manipulative, intimidating and have a belief that they can do what ever they damn well please ... not so. Also if this person detects that you are intimidated by them, they are likely to get off on it and harass you further. No one has the right or should be allowed to make you feel uncomfortable. Don't be a door mat. We are human beings and are entitled to feel safe and comfortable in our work environment.

These tips may be effective in belittling the person also, choice!! Give them a taste of their own medicine!

Options of dealing with the toucher...

1.If you are capable of controlling your emotions easily and have enough self confidence, say to the person that you would like to have a world with them when they have a moment..When you are face to face simply say 'I would really appreciate it if you would (ie) refrain from touching my ass'. That's all you need to say, you've made your point clearly, after that simply walk away. Then later you can go home and laugh about the look on his/her face, and from then on in, enjoy working in a sexual harassment (for you at least) free environment. Also after you've said your bit, forget you ever had the conversation, carry on as normal and this person is likely to treat you differently, they may even have respect for you now!

2. If confrontation is something you would rather avoid, you can get your message across by dropping subtle comments. ie: The certain person walks past you and touches you deliberately, you say: 'Do you mind? could you try walk around me, not through me please!' Make sure you ask 'do you mind?' with a look of disgust on your face to make it clear that you don't appreciate being touched by him or her. Remember, a picture says 1000 words. You could also try, 'sorry, was i in you're way?' Or if you're brave you could simply say 'please don't touch me like that.' Don't be afraid, you are only standing up for whats rightfully yours, human rights!

3. If you really cannot face confrontation altogether, whenever the person comes near you, take 2 steps back, or away from them. When the person gets to close, lean away or step away, make it really deliberately obvious. This might just be enough to send the message loud and clear. It depends on who the person is, if they don't seem get the message or ignore it, i recommend that you refer to step 2.

Options of dealing with the inappropriate commenter or/and ogler...

1.If someone asks you sexual or otherwise questions that you would rather not answer then simply don't. Simply state 'no comment' or ' I'd rather not say'. Although i think that it's best to acquire a look of disgust or a at least a frown on your face, dart it at them, then carry on doing what you were doing. Never entertain this persons suggestions when they make you feel uncomfortable, because they are likely to carry on doing it and it's also likely to escalate.

2.If the certain someone is making personal true or false comments about you that you find embarrassing best to ignore these comments. But if you are going to choose to ignore them, make sure you make it a recessive pattern. So you don't ignore them only sometimes, you do it all the time, this should gradually send the 'piss off' message your trying to deliver. Don't ever try to defend yourself, this will only make the person think that they have some kind of power over you. Be the bigger person. After all, do you really give a damn what this low life scum has to say about you? No. So don't act like it.

3.The ogler..The ogler, if that's as far as it goes for this person, is a mere passive pest. There's really only one way to deal with this person..When you catch them staring, stare them down straight back...DON'T be the first to look away, hold their gaze, stare into their eyes until they look away. Then you actually reverse the situation, you make them feel uncomfortable. Remain cautious about when you can 'feel their eyes on you', when you do, every time, stare straight back, eventually they will stop. There is another way actually, come to think of it.. whenever the person is staring, ask, 'what?' If that's the option you choose, stick to it, make a habit of asking 'what?' when your getting the stare down.

I really hope that this info will help people, because iv' e witnessed too many people getting away with sexual harassment and it's not okay.